Hey guys. This blog is for those of us gay guys (around 16%, wow I know, not a lot) that don't have anal sex, due to the fact that it is too painful for us, or we do not enjoy it. Go to any gay dating site, and you will notice that they do not really offer options for those of us that do not have anal sex, in fact, most of the time they require you to choose between "top", "bottom", or "versatile". Very few sites actually allow you to choose anything besides that. And none of them that I have come across even allows for Intercrural sex, frottage, mutual masturbation, etc. etc. And the only websites I have found that even remotely speak to us gay men that are not interested in anal is the Man2Manalliance.org, run by Bill Weintraub, or the g0y movement. (However both of these movements do not really leave much room for those of us that aren't labeled into the "jock" or "straight-acting" categories.).
Although I can understand these two sites, and what their goal is, some of us don't really fit their bill for acceptance. Some of us are not the physically fit macho jocks that they want us to be. Some of us have a few feminine characteristics, and that is what makes us who we are. I applaud the two movements, for trying, but I feel that they went too far in a different direction, not really leaving some of us any choice but to feel ostracized both in their communities, and in the mainstream gay communities. Take me for instance: I'm your average nerdy type. I like chess, and video games, books and art. The only sports I like are tennis, bowling, raquetball, volleyball, and table pool. Which aren't really considered "sports" by most people but rather hobbies. Also I have a little femininity about me, which has always been the case, from birth. Some people might disagree and say that I was brought up that way, and I will say that I have seen it happen. I have seen "macho" gay guys that are in the closet suddenly turn into drama queens once they come out. So, as you can see, I would not fit their model as a "straight-acting macho man". So where does that leave me, especially within their organizations that are the closest thing I have to what I feel?
I'm not going to go into details and say I believe every word of the above mentioned two movements, because I most definitely do not. However I can see some of their points, and can agree with some of them. Feel free to check out their sites and see for yourself, and decide what you feel about their methods and beliefs, perhaps one of them is right for you, if so, go at it. However, I did not make this blog to send others to these two sites. Quite the contrary, I created this blog as a safe haven, for those of us that don't belong to the two above movements, or to the gay community that prizes anal sex as the only way to have sex.
I am here to tell you that is not the case. There are MANY different ways that we can please men other than anal sex, and that is what this blog is about: a place where we can all talk, get together, discuss, and possibly even find a mate. As this blog progresses, hopefully I will be able to create a side bar for those of us to meet with others in our areas, it's my dream to create a safe haven for those of us that need a place to join together.
Welcome to XVI!
16%, and Strong!
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